I think I probably reacted a bit too, "Grr!" out of instinct. Need to kick my own arse there, methinks.Dirty n Evil wrote:Nathan is completely and utterly 100% correct. What's more, I'm embarrassed that I didn't speak up for him sooner. There is a certain degree of respect that we should all show one another not only as people, but on a more personal level as fellow fans of a wonderfully entertaining webcomic.Nathan Dorian wrote:Seriously, guys, what the Hell?
While I believe Phoenix was attempting to be playful in his comment rather than offensive, I'll still say I'm sorry for not butting in earlier.
[playful impishness] Give the word, Nathan, and I'll go more Evil than Dirty on them. [/playful impishness]
No worries, you didn't offend me in the slightest. C:midgetshrimp wrote:I only went through my spiel because I thought it was obvious. I was picking on Phoenix and didn't mean to offend. My apologies.
Mm, I suppose so.Pneumonica wrote: @Nathan: I somewhat understand the gender/sex thing, though perhaps on a lesser scale. Being gender neutral is a only a mild toughie toughie for me, mostly because I can still dress approximately correctly for sex (you're unlikely to ever see me in a skirt). Everybody I know in person wants to prove that I'm a real guy (aside from one or two noteworthy exceptions, but those were lesbians). And most of the people online want to prove I'm a chick (I'm only moderately joking on this).
On the flip side, the "it" thing is sort of a mandate of the language - there's no pronoun for me, for instance. I get "he" or "it". Guess which one I go by. So don't harsh them too much. For not asking... yeah, sure. But the "it" part is unavoidable (sadly).
I'd just rather people asked than went for a possibly offensive 'pronoun'. 'It' makes people sound far too much like mindless golems.
No worries, natural curiousity is the least offensive thing in the world to me. Never be afraid to ask - it is much better than just going on assumptions and ignorance, y'know?Don Alexander wrote:Excuse me if I'm still slightly confused. Have I got it correct that your genetic makeup is XX? I.e., you were born female?? (Female-to-male sounds like it involves a temporal causality, and I assume a transgendered person would identify with the "new, inner" gender, not the original, genetic one, and you call yourself male.)
I hope I am not stepping on your toes here. If this gets to personal, just tell me off and refrain from an answer. ;)
But I am curious. You are still quite young (20, according to you). I'm not into this topic but I would assume that sex-change operations usually take place later in life. Both due to the "It took a long time but I finally realize who I am" thing as well as to, hm, not sure, but these things must be kinda expensive, and does health insurance pay for that? It's kind of ephemeral and hard to "prove", I would think. Also, your fiancé, at least from his pictures, looks like a "normal" guy. So, would this make him homosexual, if he is male (born) and you are male (transgendered)? This seems to me a bit of a peculiar set-up. I once knew, hm, let's just say, a person (as Pneu states, "it" is pretty much unavoidable) who has a female body but feels to be a male. While (s)he is bisexual, all in all, in terms of permanent commitment, (s)he is more attuned to girls, which makes her/him rather more heterosexual, i.e. "I am male, and I am attracted to females".
Jeez, I've probably never asked anyone such deep-going questions before... :? I hope I am not crossing any boundaries here, but you are not making a secret of it, and I guess some other board members might also be interested in this topic. So bear with me, please. If I get blasted down, I'll just delete this post...
I am young, however I've known I was a dude 'inside' since I was about 13 so for me it seems more like forever. Transition-wise, I've had my name and title changed and I effectively live as male to the best of my ability with the support of my family and friends.
In theory, any medical transition (hormones, surgery) would be paid for here in Ye Merry Olde England by the National Health Service. However, that's... A complicated subject, where the NHS personally failed me and I'd rather not go into it. For most people though, it's a long waiting-list but you still get good, cheap / free service.
However, it is fooking expensive outside of the NHS or in other places around the world. Insanely so.
On the subject of my fiance.. We're in a homosexual relationship. C: He has known me as male but female-bodied from the beginning, three years ago, and has never had a problem with it.
....*Patpat*oni wrote:20 words or less slim...20 words or less. You can do it! I believe in you.
nathan is a dude but a chic...eh, either way would hit that so hard --does this make me a tranzgender-heterosexual-ghey-not-ghey-borderline freaky-not tedbundy freaky-mr.rogers won't you be my neighbor-not-um...if'n..be...brain fart, bleh!
Right.
Are we done? XD